I have to thank
Monsieur Carlo for putting things into perspective. And he is absolutely right: my attitude has a direct influence on how my students will act. I have control through my own behavior. And it does show, I see it with my 2 grade 10 classes and I see it with my ethics classes. When I flow, they flow... when I jive they jive. They are also very understanding when I am under the weather (
"aww Miss, you should take the period off, relax, we don't mind..." the sneaky little buggers...I love 'em to bits!)
But this is the thing with Bob and Larry (and a bagful of others - and do keep in mind, I am not criticizing what Mr. C has expressed, I am just stating facts that can be confirmed by pretty much the entire teaching staff at my school):
What happens when you've got kids who don't give a flying foof about what you do, what you say to them. Scare them, scold them, chastize them, praise them, mock them, cheer them on... it always brings the same result: nothing. It seems that there is a void in many students today (even in Greece where my sister teaches), a void where motivation goes to die, a void that has swallowed the basic social skills that allows a human being to exist in society... Did you know that there is a girl at our school whose vocabulary is made up entierely of derivatives composed by the words
F*** You and
Bi*** (sheer talent...) Another girl back handed a teacher because said teacher was reprimanding the girl's friend. In the case of Bob and Larry, last year, they led my class in cheering on a girl who called me racist. And when confronted by their appaling behavior, they saw nothing wrong with it. Their actions were totally justified.
And I have tried. We all have tried. Which is why
so many teachers are giving up. Kids are so
screwed up these days that you could be as entertaining as Bugs Bunny and they will throw it right back in your face. It's scary to know that no matter how nice, playful, annoying, violent you can be towards a kid and it'll all slide off like Teflon.
I appreciate the advice. I did actually get some vindication from a former student who has become one of our basketball coaches (awesome guy). This kid, John P., was a total slacker in my grade 11 class back in 2001/2002. A real bum. I don't think I ever gave him above 50% (he just never did the work and was always absent). When I saw him earlier this year, we started chatting and he told me that he wishes he had paid more attention in my class, because he is having a hard time trying to get his credits in French in adult education.
That definitely makes my day!
Merci Monsieur Carlo. Things aren't that bad. I can always count on my grade 10 classes (thank you Sam, Darryl, Liz, Wongzilla, Morales, Josephat, Antoine, de la Montagne and so many others...) to put a smile on my face!